How to find love when you're busy

“I want to find my person, but I’m just too busy.”

This is something I hear almost every day from driven, high-performing singles in their 30s and beyond.
They’re successful. Ambitious. And secretly, a little lonely.

• “I’m a workaholic, but when I come home, I feel the emptiness.”

• “There’s always a fire to fight at work. But I wish I had someone to come home to.”

• “Traffic and travel wear me down. Yet, I long for companionship.”

• “Weekends are for recovery, not socializing. Still… I want love in my life.”

Many of them are seeking a shortcut a fast track to love. And I get it. Who wouldn’t want that?
But when I ask them, on a scale of 1 to 10, how important is finding a partner to you?
The answer is almost always the same: “11.”

That’s when I flip the script.
I ask them to imagine a major milestone goal  like:

• Buying a home or a car

• Planning a luxury vacation with family

• Or growing in their career

  
  

And for career growth, it’s about taking time to upskill, network, and be visible.

And then I ask them if there is a shortcut to weight loss, they look at me in amusement wondering why we are on this topic :), but they agree that it takes months of showing up, eating right, and working out.

And then I then bring back the conversation to  why do we treat finding a life partner  arguably one of the most important relationships in our lives as something that should just... happen?

Here’s my gentle nudge to every busy single who wants love but doesn’t have “time”:

You do have the time. You’re already investing in your future, in yourself. So why not in your companionship and your shared future.

Give it the same attention you would give your career or health.
Reflect. Grow. Be open to meeting. And show up.

At andwemet, we’ve seen that when singles do this with full intention and heart, they often meet their person within six months. I call this the andwemet assurance.

If this resonates, let's schedule an interaction. Let’s find your person, together.