"I had a poor childhood."
"My parents never got along."
"I fear I’ll repeat their mistakes."
We hear this often. And while it's valid, here's a perspective worth sitting with...
You are surely a thinking adult if you are reading this. And we need to stop blaming parents for the fear, as one seeks love for oneself.
👉Parenting is the world’s toughest job.
There’s no manual. No one-size-fits-all.
Often, parenting is overwhelming, sometimes rewarding.
It is possible that parents may not have had the emotional awareness, tools, or support, and did what they could, with what they knew.
This is not an excuse, it’s context.
A hard childhood doesn’t make them villains. It makes them human.
👉Today, you are not your childhood.
You're a thinking, capable adult today.
You see what went wrong, that means you know what can be right.
So what’s stopping you from choosing differently?
👉Wanting love but fearing love is common.
But using your past as a permanent reason to stall?
That’s a choice, healing isn’t about pretending the past didn’t hurt but it’s about no longer letting it dictate how you love.
So yes, acknowledge the past. But don’t let it own your present.
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