Just because two people have the same end goal, like marriage or a live-in relationship, doesn’t automatically make them a match.
Dating doesn’t always lead to commitment even if both people want the same thing in the long run.
The good news? You’re aligned on the type of relationship you want.
Now comes the part where you figure out if you’re right for each other.
Here’s how we’d look at it:
#1. Identify your must-haves (aka non-negotiables). No more than 3 to 5.
Once you’ve finalized them, avoid adding more.
Otherwise, you’ll just end up confused and indecisive while dating.
#2. Commit to the process.
Invest time and effort in genuinely searching for your person and give it a solid 6 months.
If you stay consistent, you’re likely to see meaningful progress.
#3. Pause and reflect when needed.
If things still aren’t working despite your efforts,
it might be time to reassess your approach if needed.
#4. Keep texting light and intentional.
When you’re introduced to someone, don’t overthink or read between the lines.
Focus on asking the right questions, and don’t get stuck in endless texting.
#5. Move to a call or a meet-up soon.
When you do, go in with an open mind and zero expectations.
Bonus tip? Suggesting an activity over just coffee or a meal
can make things feel more relaxed and natural.
The sooner we start approaching dating as a process discovery - not pressure,
the more enjoyable (and less stressful) it becomes.
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