Whether you meet them through friends, family, or a dating service like ours, this 6-month path works, at any age.
But it only works if you commit.
No drifting, no flaking.
These 6 months demand energy, reflection, and real openness to growth.
Here’s what to expect:
You will meet many people. That’s part of the process.
You will feel emotionally tired. That’s normal.
You will be asked to reflect inward. It’s non-negotiable
You must stay open, not just to others - but to your own evolution.
🌻 Step 1: Understand Yourself
Start with writing down what you truly want in a partner.
Then reflect:
How much of that list is really you, and how much is just society whispering in your ear?
𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧, 𝐚𝐬𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟:
Would you dismiss someone just because he’s your height or shorter, even if he ticks all your boxes and loves your heels?
What if he’s not professionally ambitious but cheers you on endlessly?
Would you overlook someone just because he’s bald?
𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞𝐧, 𝐚𝐬𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟:
Does her skin tone matter more than how you feel around her?
Would you reject someone because she prefers not living with your parents, even if she brings joy, calm, and partnership?
Your list may look different. And that’s the point.
Once you have it, make a non-negotiables list, 3 to 4 things you will not compromise on.
Not 10. Just a few.
And stick to them, no matter the temptation.
🌻 Step 2: Begin the Search—Openly
Whether you're introduced by family, friends, or through
, your mindset is what matters. Go in with openness.
You’re not evaluating a checklist, you’re meeting people.
𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰:
Don’t bond over trauma or past pain.
Keep texts light. A few minutes a day or even every few days is fine.
Prioritize in-person meetings. Go for a walk, any activity. Do something vs a coffee date.
Repeat this for your first 5 interactions. You will realise it builds real connection.
Be curious, in the right way…
Instead of “Why did your last relationship end?” try:
→ “What did you learn from it?”
Instead of “Why are you still single?” try:
→ “What’s been keeping you busy in life lately?”
Try and see if this works for you, build clarity, and maybe try this process, you’ll be amazed at what might unfold.
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