I have love to give, but how do I share it right?
When we ran a poll asking singles how they express love, the responses were revealing.
Some people said, “I have so much love to give, I just can’t wait to share it.”
Many said they prefer to give only after they know the other person can receive.
And a few shared that they naturally receive more than they give.
Each answer tells a story about how we connect, how we attach, and how we build relationships as adults.
At andwemet, here’s how we see it.
#1 If you’re someone who “can’t wait to give love”
Your heart is in the right place but your pace may need a pause.
Generosity in love is beautiful. But rushing into giving especially early on can overwhelm the other person, even if your intentions are pure.
A few things to keep in mind:
Love styles differ. Yours may be proactive; theirs may be slow and steady.
Trust isn’t built in days. It’s built in consistency.
When someone isn’t ready to receive, even the sweetest gestures can feel heavy.
We often see this even in introductions on andwemet with messages like “I feel we’ll make a great match” on Day 1.
Hope is good. But hope needs space to breathe.
Go slow. Let it grow.
You will have a lifetime to shower love but only if you pace yourself at the start.
#2 If your style is: “I give once I know they can receive”
You’re doing something emotionally intelligent.
Not everyone has the capacity to receive love easily.
Some take time.
Some freeze.
Some get overwhelmed.
Some are just not used to consistency, affection or openness.
You observing before giving isn’t being cautious it’s being wise.
Early relationships are tender.
Matching emotional tempos matters.
#3 If your tendency is: “I receive more than I give”
It’s time to rethink this a bit.
A relationship where one gives and one receives will eventually exhaust the giver even if they never say it out loud.
Healthy partnership = reciprocity
Not 50–50 all the time, but ebb and flow, give and take.
If this is your love style, try to contribute consciously in effort, in care.
Your partner shouldn’t feel like they’re carrying the relationship.
#4 About sharing deepest secrets
No one owes their darkest secret early on.
Sometimes it takes years.
Sometimes it may never happen and that’s okay too.
Trust is built slowly.
Respect that timeline yours and theirs.
#5 On courtship
Courtship is not just dating it’s intentional dating.
Being exclusive
Showing interest from both sides
A lot of laughter
A lot of learning
A lot of understanding
Two adults with their own opinions figuring out how to meet in the middle
If entering a relationship emotional maturity matter more than “chemistry.”
Work on your anger.
Work on your ego.
Work on being sensitive.
Work on not sulking.
Work on yourself before trying to love someone else.
And look for someone who has done the same.
Why this matters for singles 28+
Because by this age, love isn’t a fairy tale.
Love is a choice.
A daily one.
And how you love determines whether you build peace or friction.
Having love to give is beautiful.
But the magic lies in how you give, when you give, and to whom you give.
Go slow.
Be intentional.
Let compatibility and trust build naturally.
And when both of you are ready love flows effortlessly, it does.
