Before you start dating, a note for teens
In your teens, you may have heard, read, or even spoken to friends about dating, love, and relationships. Maybe you’ve seen your older friends or siblings date and felt curious about what it feels like.
In many Indian homes, these conversations are not easy to have. Parents often ask you to focus on studies, extracurriculars, and self-growth and this advice comes from care, not control. But it can leave you unsure about what dating really means or how to handle your emotions responsibly.
Let’s start with this it is okay to like someone. It’s natural to feel drawn to a person who makes you feel seen or understood. But it’s also important to understand the difference between dating and a special friendship.
A special friendship is when you enjoy spending time with someone, but your focus on studies, goals, and other interests remains strong.
Dating, on the other hand, often brings deeper emotions and if not managed carefully, can take up mental and emotional space that affects other areas of life.
Ask yourself:
Am I giving enough time to my studies, hobbies, and friends?
Do I still feel like myself, or am I losing focus because of this connection?
Is this relationship helping me grow, or pulling me away from what matters right now?
If a special friendship starts affecting your self-growth or your focus, it’s a sign to pause. A healthy connection should make you feel supported, not distracted or pressured.
Over the past few months, I’ve met seven teenagers 18 and 19 years of age whose parents requested them to speak with me about dating and how to approach it thoughtfully. More recently, parents of younger teens have also reached out, asking for guidance on what to share with their children.
This note we hope gets the teenagers to reflect and allow them and their parents to start open, honest conversations about liking someone without fear or shame, and for teens who are beginning to navigate what that means.
At andwemet, we create a space for singles in their late 20s, 30s, and beyond who are looking for long-term, meaningful relationships. But understanding how to build healthy connections begins much earlier — with awareness, self-respect, and open communication.
For adults you may like to go through these 10 questions before you invest in dating with intent.
