10 Non-Negotiables Every Single Must Follow While Dating
Dating in your 30s and beyond comes with experience, self-awareness, and — let’s be honest — a healthy dose of caution. Whether you meet someone through andwemet or anywhere else, your safety and well-being must come first.
Over the years, we've heard from hundreds of singles — some stories inspiring, others cautionary. What’s clear is that dating today needs intention, boundaries, and awareness.
Here are 10 non-negotiables we encourage every member of our community (and beyond) to follow:
1. Keep initial conversations brief
Yes, even if they sound promising. The real connection begins when you meet. Long chats can create illusions — not clarity.
2. Don’t share where you live or your living situation
Living alone or with family? Keep that private. Safety first — always.
3. Meet in person over an activity
Skip the pressure of dinner or drinks. Opt for a walk, an event, or something interactive. Activities help break the ice naturally.
4. Daytime meetings only
There’s something grounding about meeting in the daylight. Trust us on this.
5. No pick-ups or drops
Yes, it may feel old-school romantic, but let’s keep control of our own arrival and exit — especially in the early days.
6. Split the bill
It's not about money. It's about equality, intention, and removing unspoken expectations.
7. If you feel uncomfortable, walk away
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. There's no space for misbehavior — and you’re not here to play therapist. Block and move on.
8. Don’t add them to your social media right away
Social media is personal. Give the connection time before giving access to your digital world.
9. Avoid sending photos
We get the urge to “see” someone. But instead of sending pictures, schedule a quick video call. It’s honest, real, and two-way.
10. Don’t rush into a relationship
This is not a race. The right connection needs time to unfold. Trust the pace.
A gentle nudge...
If you’ve been dating for 12 months or more and feel stuck, consider this:
What if you tried dating differently — just for the next 180 days?
The andwemet way is slow, steady, and safe. And it’s built for people like you — who are done with dating fatigue and want something real.
Let’s date better, making it fun. Let’s date with care.
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