Curious about your prospect’s past relationship? Try this approach instead.
When we meet someone who’s gone through a breakup or divorce, it’s natural to wonder — what went wrong?
You might be tempted to ask:
👉 “What caused the breakup?”
(Think about this, why do you wish to know what caused it…)
Instead of the above ask:
👉 “What did you learn from that relationship?”
Because this question reveals their thought process, not just the storyline.
The response to this question helps you understand their values, growth, and must-haves today.
You need to ask yourself
Shouldn’t I be more interested in how they reflect, rather than blindly believing a one-sided version of what went wrong?
Remember, after all, you're hearing only their perspective and not everything is black or white.
And for those who’ve experienced a breakup themselves:
When asked, it’s always more powerful to share what you learned from the experience than to focus on blame or how things ended.
It is nice to know
You’re not dating their past, you’re dating who they are today.
Ask better questions. Answer with awareness.
It’ll help both of you move forward more meaningfully.
This may make an interesting read - How to date without getting hurt
