How to date someone without social media?

 Met someone wonderful but they have No Social Media? Here’s how to date mindfully

They are charming, ask thoughtful questions, and maybe even make you laugh out loud. But then they drop a line that makes you pause—“I’m not on social media.”

No Instagram, no LinkedIn, no quiet lurking on Facebook,nothing.

Now, before you dismiss them or go down a spiral of suspicion, take a deep breath.While rare, it’s not entirely impossible to find someone who consciously chooses to stay off the grid. But that doesn’t mean you stop being smart about your next steps.

Here’s what we recommend you do:

1. Request a video call before meeting in person.

You’re not asking for much. A quick video chat is the new baseline. If they dodge it, let that be your cue to move on. You don’t need to justify this, it’s about your safety and comfort.

2. Tell them a friend is dropping you off at the meeting point.

Whether it’s true or not doesn’t matter. You’re setting the tone: “Someone knows where I am, and someone will be checking in.”

3. Choose the meeting spot.

A well-lit café you’re comfortable in. Ideally, one where you’ve been before. You’re not being controlling, you’re being responsible.

4. Inform a friend or family member.

Location, time, name, phone number (if you have it). Share it all. Turn on live location if needed. This isn’t overkill, it’s self-care.

5. Keep personal details to yourself.

No sharing of your home address, where you work, your parents’ names, or how often you’re alone. Keep it light and fun, skip the logistics.

6. Cap the first meeting at 30 minutes.

Yes, even if you’re having a great time. Say goodbye and suggest a walk next time, maybe a sunrise stroll. (We recommend this for all as a 1st date)

7. Ask thoughtful questions.

They’re not on social media, but they found you on a dating app? Be curious ask about their friends, family, their routine. Not to judge, but to understand.

8. No sharing of photos or your social media profiles.

Since they’re not on social media, there’s no need to “introduce” them to you online. Let them meet you in real life, over time.

9. Texting? Keep it to a minimum.

Enough to confirm plans, but don’t fall into the trap of building a fantasy connection over long texts. Your connection should grow offline.

10. Hold off on introducing them to your life.

No virtual tours of your home. No stories about your colleagues. No sending your schedule. Keep your world protected till trust is built.

11. Introduce a friend after the third meeting.

And ask to meet someone from their life too. Friends say a lot about who we are. Observe how they introduce you. It matters.

12. Don’t share any personal documents or sensitive information

No Aadhaar, no passport pics, no investment details, even if the story sounds urgent or romantic.

13. Hold off sharing personal details till the 7th or 8th in-person interaction.

Yes. 7th or 8th. You read that right.
Why? Because consistency is revealed with time. The real person shows up around then.

One last thing:

If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t feel guilty for pulling away. You owe no one your trust. It’s earned, slowly, brick by brick.

Dating with intent isn’t about paranoia, it’s about honouring your boundaries and not rushing to “vibe” at the cost of your well-being.

There are good people out there, yes, even those who’ve sworn off social media. Just remember: the person you’re protecting is you. And you’re worth it.

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