Dear Parents, Siblings, Friends, and Well-Wishers. please read this before you share your dislike for someone’s partner
We Indians love deeply. We show up for our people, we involve ourselves in their lives, and when it comes to love or marriage, we feel responsible to “advise,” “guide,” or sometimes even “protect.”
But let’s pause for a moment.
If someone you care about your daughter, son, cousin, sibling, or close friend—has found someone they are happy with, think twice before sharing your dislike for their partner.
We know your concern comes from a good place.
Maybe you don’t like the way their partner dresses.
Maybe their background doesn’t match what you expected.
Maybe their voice, body language, or even humour feels “off” to you.
But if your person is happy, if they feel safe and seen—that matters more than your opinions.
“But I have to be honest!” you say...
Yes, honesty is important. But let’s not confuse honesty with unchecked judgement.
Sharing your dislike, even gently, can plant a crack in their relationship. Not immediately. But over time, your words can create doubt, hesitation, guilt, and distance. Two people who genuinely enjoyed each other may start drifting apart without even realizing why.
And if things do fall apart, you may be tempted to say “I told you so.”
But now let’s be honest - were you part of the problem as you planted doubt and guilt....
So what can you do instead?
Ask your person if they are happy and feel sure about their choice.
Invest time in getting to know their partner before forming an opinion.
Hold space, even if you feel unsure.
Step in only if there is a genuine red flag—not just a personal preference.
Love is not easy to find, especially today. When someone finds a connection, it deserves respect, not resistance.
Let’s not make it harder for singles many of whom are already battling societal pressure, fear of heartbreak, and self-doubt. Let’s be their soft landing, not their storm.
Love can grow beautifully when it's supported.
So next time, before you express disapproval, ask yourself:
Am I helping love grow, or am I planting fear?
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