When we're looking for a partner, many of us hold onto this hope:
that there’s someone out there who is just right for us.
But is “the right person” a universal standard?
Or is it something personal — as defined by us, for us?
I believe it's the latter.
We need to define who feels right for us based on our values, personality, needs, must-haves, and stage in life.
But what's right for me might be all wrong for you.
And that’s the beauty of it:
there’s no one-size-fits-all formula.
Think about this…
Two wonderful, kind, intelligent people might enter a relationship and yet, it doesn’t work.
Maybe they break-up, or get divorced.
It’s not because they aren’t amazing individuals,
but because they just weren’t the right fit for each other.
Later, each of them finds someone else…
someone who feels like the missing puzzle piece.
That’s not failure
that’s realignment.
Or this…
Two wonderful people are compatible.
They grow together, share love and memories.
But one day, they part ways. Why?
Sometimes, one person stops investing in the relationship.
Or they grow at different paces.
Love without ongoing effort can slowly lose its way.
And yet, both may go on to find other partners
the ones with whom they can grow again.
So maybe the right person isn't just about who they are,
it’s also about when, how, and whether you’re both willing to invest, grow, and align with one another over time.
The right person, then, is not a fixed identity.
It’s a mutual experience.
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