Something feels off, but you can’t quite name it.
You like them. You’ve had a few good conversations.
But now, their communication pattern is… confusing.
They cancel plans last minute.
They avoid video calls or always take calls away from you.
In the andwemet community, we call this a communication behavior check-in a moment to pause and observe, not accuse.
Here are some gentle yet effective questions to ask when you're unsure:
“You seem busy often. what’s the best time for us to talk without rushing?”
This checks if they’re making space for you or always too ‘busy’.“I notice you prefer texting are calls or video chats not your thing?”
A direct yet non-threatening way to ask why they avoid real-time interaction.“Is there a reason you don’t answer my calls sometimes even when you’re online?”
Watch how they respond. A valid reason will come easily; excuses won’t.“Are you someone who likes to keep your dating life private, even from close ones?”
Helps you gauge if they're hiding the relationship or just private by nature.“What kind of communication helps you feel most connected when getting to know someone?”
Gives you context around their comfort zones and expectations.“You step away to take calls is everything okay? Or something you’d rather keep separate?”
Framed with care, this makes it about concern, not suspicion.“When we schedule time to chat or meet, should I expect some flexibility or is your schedule usually unpredictable?”
This helps reveal if they’re genuinely unavailable or just not prioritizing you.
The way someone communicates reveals their emotional availability.
Don’t overthink or be afraid to ask and don’t ignore what the answers (or silence) show you.
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