How do I know the dating prospect I’m talking to isn’t lying?
Be it their age, education, income, or even marital status this question comes up often in our andwemet community.
And the honest truth?
It’s hard to know for sure. But not impossible.
While there’s no foolproof lie detector for dating, however there are signs and patterns that help you spot honesty or the lack of it.
Let’s say you’ve met a few times have decided to be exclusive or already are exclusive and you’re working toward a committed relationship. Things are going well, but something feels off. You want to be sure they are who they say they are. Here are a few practical ways to tune into the truth:
1. They talk about you to their inner circle.
By now, they should’ve mentioned you to their close friends or family. Ask to meet them. If they’re serious, they’ll be open to the idea.
2. You’ve introduced them to your world, and they reciprocate.
Get them to meet your friends or family and pay attention to how they respond. Hesitation is understandable early on, but avoidance over time is a red flag.
3. Observe their phone habits.
If they always step out to take calls, especially during quality time with you, it’s worth raising an eyebrow. Transparency in simple moments says a lot.
4. Video calls during 'real' hours.
Saturday evenings, Sunday afternoons are relaxed windows. If they’re consistently unavailable for a casual video call during these times, something’s amiss.
5. Frequent last-minute cancellations.
If they often bail out of plans citing work or sudden travel, it could be genuine. But if it’s a pattern, trust your gut inconsistency signals something deeper.
6. They invite you to their home.
If they’re single and settled, inviting you over shouldn’t be a big deal. Reluctance here can indicate they’re hiding something or someone.
7. They’re okay with you tagging them online… eventually.
While privacy is valid, long-term digital invisibility in today’s world may hint at a double life. If they dodge this conversation again and again, it’s worth questioning.
8. Their stories stay consistent over time.
People who lie tend to forget their own versions. Pay attention to small inconsistencies in timelines, job roles, past relationships, or how they describe their living situation.
9. You feel emotionally safe to ask tough questions.
If you’re afraid to ask them certain things because you fear it’ll rock the boat — that’s a sign too. A genuine relationship allows room for uncomfortable but necessary conversations.
Do note:
Don’t rely solely on social media to verify someone’s reality.
Invest in real-time interactions.
Meet, talk, ask questions. Listen to what they say and how they behave.
Because at the end of the day, someone who is serious about building something real with you will show up with clarity, consistency, and courage.
Do schedule a call on relationship guidance if you wish to discuss this further.
