What does it mean to date someone emotionally unavailable...

If you find yourself trying to date someone wonderful who is emotionally unavailable, it can be challenging. Trying to get close to someone who is emotionally not there is like running a marathon without training – it can be physically and mentally damaging for the one attempting it.

Here are a few signs that you are dating someone emotionally unavailable:

1)     They avoid certain topics making it difficult to get to know them.

2)    They don’t commit to you on most things, cancel plans, and avoid confrontation.

3) They may give timelines but rarely meet them.

4) They appear to be always busy, having little time for you. You might feel like you're always the one who's putting in all the effort.

5) You may find yourself constantly seeking their validation and approval, only to be disappointed or left feeling empty.

If you are looking to date or are dating someone emotionally unavailable it’s important to remember that you are not responsible for their emotional state, and that you cannot ‘fix’ or change them.

Often, these individuals have experienced trauma or have been hurt in previous relationships. As a result, they may be afraid to be emotionally present.

If you have decided to date someone who is emotionally unavailable, you need to make sure that you are prepared for it. You need to be understanding as emotionally unavailable people are often afraid of intimacy, and they may be guarded having difficulty in expressing their emotions.

It can indeed be tough to deal with an emotionally unavailable partner, but it is possible to find happiness if you're willing to fight for it. Here are a few tips on how to deal if in such a situation:

1. Understand that they might not be capable of giving you what you need.

2. Don't try to change them, but let them know how you feel and what you need from them.

3. Be willing to compromise and accept that they might not be able to give you everything you want.

4. Communicate with each other openly and honestly.

5. Seek professional help if you feel like you're struggling to cope.

If you have decided to enter in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable individual, make sure that you are taking care of yourself and setting boundaries.

It is also important to remember that change is possible, but during this time you need to be strong and patient. The emotionally unavailable partner needs to work on themselves and make a change. This change could take a few months, years, or unfortunately, it might never happen.

We have another blog on this topic, you can read about it here.