How do I know if this person is the right one for me as I date with intent?

Interacting with grown-up singles who feel exhausted from past experiences—whether it's years of searching or a dissolved relationship—has brought this question up often. Here's what I shared in one such discussion:

💕 Know Your Worth
Understand that you are worthy of love and connection. Even the most confident individuals have insecurities. Instead of being overly critical of yourself, embrace these insecurities and work on them one at a time. Growth is a lifelong journey, and it begins with self-acceptance.

💕Define Your Must-Have List
Once you’ve started addressing insecurities, you'll gain clarity about what you truly seek in a partner. Write down your Must-Have list—a maximum of 6-7 key traits or values that are essential for you. (Many who interact with andwemet are familiar with this process.)

💕 Separate Must-Haves from Pet Peeves
Ensure your Must-Have list isn’t clouded by minor annoyances or preferences, such as poor pronunciation or a habit that irks you. Focus on values and compatibility over superficial traits.

💕 Observe Before Deciding
The truth is, you won’t know if someone is the right person for you after just one meeting. It takes 5-7 interactions to gauge compatibility. Make these interactions observational rather than purely conversational—watch how they behave, listen to their stories, and notice their actions.

Finding the right person isn't about instant certainty but about giving yourself and the other person the time and space to grow into clarity.

Make intentional dating fun and see the magic unfold.

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