Should You Share Your Past Early?

Should You Share Your Past Early?

How early in the getting-to-know phase should you share about your past - should we talk about it in the 1st or 2nd interaction?

It’s tempting to share everything about your past with this stranger, your prospective match, especially if your past includes challenges or traumas.

But it’s worth considering...

☁️ The Problem with Rushing to the Past:
☑️ Why should a stranger trust your narrative early on? They barely know you.
☑️ Expecting someone to trust your life story in just a few interactions is asking for more than most are ready to give.

You would agree trust is built gradually through frequent interactions. So in the initial interactions instead of diving into your past, focus on sharing who you are today. What say?

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☁️ Why Your Past Can Wait

Sharing your past too soon can feel overwhelming for both parties.

By focusing on the present, you allow the other person to see who you are today. Once the trust is built it will make it easier for them to empathize with your story.

However, if your past includes significant red flags—like harmful behaviors or legal issues—these should be disclosed early on with honesty and accountability.

Approaching dating with this strategy makes the journey of finding your person sustainable.

Try this approach, and let us know how it worked for you!

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