I’m scared to get married. Have you heard yourself say this...
Not because I don’t believe in love.
Not because I don’t want a partner.
But because of how marriage is often presented to me
My parents want me to marry someone I barely know.
Society thinks it’s time.
I feel lonely, and I’ve been told marriage will fix that.
I’ve struggled with self-confidence, hoping marriage will validate me.
If you’re a thinking, financially independent person, of course you’d be scared.
But here’s where the story can shift. Especially if you’ve been searching for years, or just starting in your 30s or beyond...
Try saying (and living) this instead:
I’m building patience because finding my person takes time.
I need to invest in effort, this is my milestone, not just a box to tick.
I own my flaws and taking responsibility for them.
I know my self-worth can’t come from someone else.
I understand emotional bonding takes months, not moments.
It is ok to say I’m scared, but at the same time be self-aware. And maybe that’s the beginning of choosing right.
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